Over the past several months I’ve been faced with a few questions and comments about my life choices. Most of them are basic questions, asked out of love, caring and curiosity, but then there are others that have just rubbed me the wrong way. From complete strangers giving me career and financial advice, to new acquaintances asking me personal questions that are really none of their business, I feel like I’ve heard it all.
And I knew I mustn’t be alone. My situations in Canada, Spain and England can’t be unique, so I reached out to other expats and trailing spouses (or love migrants as one referred to herself) to find out what questions and comments they get asked that hurt their feelings, made them feel judged, or just rubbed them the wrong way. I received a number of responses, but there were a few themes/comments/words that seemed to pop up over and over again.
So, without further ado, here’s what NOT to say to an expat or trailing spouse: Continue reading